The negitive effects of bad relations

Holden went on to explain to me about the relationships that didnt go so well. Holden says he does not like to be around "phony" people. He had a relationship with this guy named Stradlater. He really hated this guy! He said Stradlater s a "secret slob." I have a feeling Stradlater has way more control then Holden does like when he makes Holden do his homework. When knowing this i think this brings less self esteem and a little fear because Stradlater was always in control.